Life Is Short. Carpe Diem

Below is a post I shared on the cancer blog I’ve been writing chronicling my husband’s cancer journey over the past two and a half years. I have never shared a post from that blog here on my main business blog but I felt like this one was very timely and important for anyone who follows me for business.

 

Life Is Short. Carpe Diem

 

DSC_0651For the past two weeks, I’ve let my weekly check-in email to my online list go. It’s the first time since I started working online that I haven’t sent a weekly email of some kind. But it just wasn’t something I could accomplish. It required a personal note from me and I couldn’t share what I was going through in a few short paragraphs. Plus, taking the time to put the email together wasn’t something I chose to do.
Many of you know that after a 2 1/2 year long journey with Metastatic Melanoma, my amazing, positive, sweet husband Johnny passed away Sunday morning.
For almost three weeks, John was ending his cancer journey in a hospital bed in our dining room on hospice. I worked a little here and there, but I honestly didn’t get much accomplished. There were his medical needs (which were significant), and the fact that, whenever I was in my office working, even though I could see him from here, I felt like I needed to be there with him instead.
And I listened to that intuitive push. I spent hours just sitting and holding his hand or laying down with him and cuddling, talking and laughing and crying. In the end, when he passed away on Sunday morning, I felt as though I had said all I could say and heard everything he needed to tell me.
This cancer journey and loving him through it has changed me profoundly and in so many different ways. The biggest thing I’ve noticed over the past month is the way I work (or refused to allow work to run me). I have gone a few days without checking my email (something I would never have dreamed of doing previously). Nothing fell apart. The world didn’t end. The issues I needed to deal with were waiting for me when I finally opened my email.
We turned off the T.V. and rarely had it on while John was dying and no one missed it. It forced us to talk, to each other and to him. We were more present and there for each other because the background noise was turned off. It was such a gift and it made our final days with John more sacred.
I let go of worry about work or money, knowing that his life and making sure he got to see it out in his way with all of us around him, was far more important. I can always work, can always earn money, I’ll always be fine. What mattered during this time was my other priorities.
John totally “got” this too. As I would be busily and efficiently taking care of him, changing a bandage, helping him change his clothes, or getting him out of the shower, he would stop, make me look at him, hold me, lean his head against my chest, and take a moment to just love me and force me to slow down and feel it. Those moments mean the most to me right now.
I wanted to share this with you because you may be a workaholic like I was, constantly being available to your customers or team, incessantly checking email or Facebook on your smartphone when you’re supposed to be present with your family and loved ones.
Stop it.
NOTHING you’ll see on any screen is as important as the people who are right in front of you. Create time to work and then put it away and invest yourself in those around you. Because, trust me when I tell you, they can be gone in the blink of an eye and you’ll never regret any time you spent with them.
If I could have just one more day, one more hour, one more minute with my beloved John, I’d give up anything for it. The finality of his absence from my life sinks in daily. He really is not coming back and the memories we shared, memories I made by stepping away from my computer and into our lives, I will cherish. I have no regrets about putting my business on the back burner and feel blessed that I was able to do that.
Life is short. Seize the day. #lovetrumpscancer #livelikejohnny
You can read all about our cancer journey (the complete story) here: julieannejonesw2.wordpress.com


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5 Keys to Recruiting Your Direct Sales Host During Host Coaching


-You can have everything in life youHow’s your direct sales recruiting going so far this year? Have you hit your monthly goal? Are you building a great team? If you’re not getting the results you want, I’d like to recommend that you start looking at host coaching as a way to change that.
Did you know, according to the Direct Selling Association, that 75% of all direct sales representatives start out as hosts? If that’s true, sharing your opportunity with your host at the end of your coaching may greatly increase your sponsoring results.

 

Here are my 5 keys to recruiting your host during your host coaching appointment.

 

 

 

  1.  Whenever possible (and I realize it’s not always possible), meet with your host in person. This will increase your connection and build your relationship faster. Get creative – if your host lives more than 25 miles away, are you going to or through her town on your way to a home party soon? Could you leave early and meet with her on the way?

 

2.  Make sure you’re creating a connection with your host in the beginning of the appointment. Get curious about her life, and listen to what she shares. There are often recruiting gems to be learned (i.e., she hates her job, she’s struggling with her day care provider, etc.).

 

3.  Never pre-judge a host or assume that she isn’t interested in hearing about your opportunity. Consider that, even if she may not want to join, chances are great that she knows someone who could really use your business. So just share that with her up front (“This may not be for you but you may know someone for whom this opportunity could truly be an answered prayer”).

 

4.  Make sure your host leaves the appointment thinking about the possibility of starting her business. I’d say, “I don’t want you to tell me now. I just want you to think about it, and if you decide between now and your party that you would like to give this a try, we’ll turn your party into your kick-off, I’ll give you all the bookings, and you’ll be on your way.”

 

5.  Finally, if you’re feeling uncomfortable about sharing or worried about coming across as “pushy,” I want to encourage you to simply share from your heart about why you love your job and why you’re passionate about sharing it. The best way to do that is simply to share your story and the stories of the women on your team who’s lives have changed because of your business. If you’re honest and sharing from your heart, it’s impossible for you to come across as “pushy.”

 

Helping your host understand the benefits of starting your business is a part of your job as a direct sales representative. The key to success in sharing is as simple as speaking from your heart. And anyone can do that. So make the decision right now to start sharing with every single host with whom you work from now on. It’s the easiest way I know to grow your business.

 

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A New Perspective on Job Security

Job-securityA month or so ago on a group coaching call for my Direct Sales Accelerator Coaching Program, someone asked to be coached around quitting her full time job. Her main issue, she informed me, was that she needed the security that her job provided and that was keeping her from quitting and stepping into her direct sales business full time.

 

Maybe you can relate. You believe in your direct sales business and you know you could make a go of it if you didn’t have to worry about going to work every day, but you can’t see giving up the steady, secure income and benefits of your “real” job. I completely understand and I’ve been where you are.

 

As I coached my client, however, we both discovered something fairly amazing. Job security, when you work for someone else, is a myth. Just ask the hundreds of thousands (maybe it’s millions, I didn’t actually Google it) of people who’ve been laid off from “secure” jobs in the past six years since the recession. I’m guessing they all believed in the safe and secure paychecks and benefits they counted on every month as well, until they were gone overnight.

 

I, on the other hand, was self-employed when the recession hit. I was making the bulk of my income as a live trainer, traveling and speaking for corporate events and field leaders. In 2008, I had about fifty live speaking engagements. The recession officially hit in September of that year and by December I looked at 2009 and had exactly zero live speaking engagements booked. I didn’t lay myself off. I wrote an e-book, started doing webinars and online courses, went on Facebook, started this blog, and learned a new way to get my information out to all of you. The point is, I had choices BECAUSE I was self employed and no one could lay me off. In a strange way, I had more job security than my friends with “real” jobs.

 

So the point is, that security you’re clinging to doesn’t really exist. Your job could be gone tomorrow, along with your choices. If you’re working your direct sales business full time, however, and your personal economy takes a nose dive, you do have choices. You can choose to do more parties, book some vendor shows, and put more energy into your business.

 

It’s the ultimate job security, if you ask me. And I wouldn’t trade that level of control for any job, no matter how much it paid or how “secure” it seemed on the surface.

 

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