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Own Your Power As A Direct Seller!

Thursday, January 19th, 2012

I've noticed a mentality in the direct sales population that bothers me. It's almost like the scene from the musical "Oliver" where Oliver goes to Fagan with his bowl in his hands, his head down, and in a timid voice asks, "Can I have some more please?" It's like we're constantly asking for favors, begging people to support us ("Would you book a party with me, please?").

I swear, my single-minded purpose in all my trainings is to vanquish this mentality. It doesn't serve you! At the end of every single live event I do, I say the same thing. It sounds something like this:

"Every single one of you in this room has enormous value. As a woman (about 99.9% of my audiences consist of women. If you're a man reading this, just insert 'man'), as a representative for your company, as a business owner I want you to really get your value and to own your power. When you do a party for a host, she's getting great value from you. Not just a bunch of free products, but an opportunity (provided by you) to get together with her friends, do something for herself, and create an experience. That gives you the right to ask for a commitment in return from her. The more you own that power and show up for yourself, the more she'll respect you and show up for you as well"

When you really get this concept, internalize it and truly believe it, it's much easier to "show up for yourself" in your life and business. A great example of not owning their value I see all the time are representatives sacrificing their value with hosts. When I was doing parties for a living, I didn't book a home party with just anyone. Unless a host was willing to meet with me within a week of booking her party for about 20 minutes either over the phone or in person to plan her party, I wasn't willing to give her a date on my calender. Why? Think about it. If a host won't give you 20 minutes of her time within a week of booking, you have no business thinking she'll put any effort whatsoever into the actual party she's throwing for you!

That's what owning your value does. It makes you think in these terms. Take a look around at your next national convention at the executives (those at the top of the compensation plan - the leaders) in your company. I can guarantee you, they're all owning their value and being respected in return because of it. You can see it when they walk in a room. I can pick out the leaders in the room without even knowing who they are just because they have this quality, this ownership of their value and their power.

And the beauty of this concept is this. When you start owning your value and respecting yourself, your time and your business, others magically start to do the same thing. I promise!

So own your power and understand the great value you have to offer those in your life and business. I think you're amazing, you should too!



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If You Don’t Ask, They Can’t Say Yes!

Tuesday, January 3rd, 2012

I love to sing. I grew up going to my mom's Sweet Adelines rehearsals and I'm sure that's one reason why. Sweet Adelines, International is an organization that encourages women of all ages and talent ranges to come together and sing accapella, barbershop harmony. I've sung in choruses and quartets most of my adult life and I'm currently back in our small local chorus after being gone for several years. I didn't realize how much I'd missed it until I came back. It feeds my soul and I adore the other women with whom I sing each week. It's a very small chorus and we've struggled with attracting new members for years. Walla Walla is a small town and I'm sure the main reason we don't have more members is because the women who would love to sing with us don't know about us (or how much fun we have).

What does this have to do with your direct sales business? Glad you asked. I want to share a story about "making the offer" that will probably make you feel better about yourself (and it's a little embarrassing, given what I do for a living, which is to teach others how to "make the offer," but I'm willing to look stupid to help you get my point). Here's my story.

I have a good friend here in town named Carey Adams. I've known her for years, mostly because she's a CAbi representative. CAbi is a direct sales/home party plan company that sells some of my favorite clothes. (I'm one of Carrie's best customers). Carrie is loud and funny and sometimes outrageous, just like me. I really adore her. Apparently, she also loves to sing. I've known her for years and never knew this about her until I casually mentioned that I sing in the local Sweet Adelines chorus about three months ago. She told me her dad had sung barbershop with a men's chorus in Chicago when she was growing up there as a kid and that she had studied vocal jazz in college. So not only does she sing, but she sings really well.

Now, you're probably thinking "Oh, so once you learned that, not only did she love to sing, but she also grew up around barbershop singing, you invited her to come sing with you, right?"

Nope. And do you know what? I looked at Carrie and thought to myself, "She's way too busy to get involved in this and I'm sure she'll say no if I invite her to come to a rehearsal, so I'm not even going to ask." I know, I know. I'm mortified to admit that I did pretty much everything I'm always telling you NOT to do. Here's a list, in case you're keeping track:

  • I prejudged her based on what I knew about her (which, as it turns out, wasn't much)
  • I didn't make the offer because I was afraid of rejection
  • I assumed I knew what was best for her and basically made the decision for her by not offering
  • I (almost) missed an opportunity to enrich both of our lives

Luckily, this story has a happy ending. My friend and fellow chorus member Lynnette also loves CAbi clothes and attended my CAbi home party last September. Apparently Lynnette reads this blog and knows how to make the offer without being pushy, because she did everything right. She found out Carrie loved to sing, stepped right up and said, "Oh, you should come sing with us. We have a great time and we'd love to have you!" Much to my amazement (and chagrin), Carrie looked her dead in the face and shouted, "I'd LOVE TO!!"

Carrie will be the newest member of our chorus this month and she's also agreed to room with me when we go to our regional competition in April. She's brought new energy to rehearsals, is helping us get the word out about our upcoming membership drive (with her extensive background in radio advertising), and is inviting others she knows to join us as well. If I know her like I think I do, she could single-handedly double the size of the chorus this year.

So the moral of the story is this: Next time you're tempted to offer your opportunity, the chance to book a party, or your products to someone, remember this simple phrase, "If you don't ask, they can't say yes". You never know where it may lead.



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By Guest Blogger Tracy McGee

Having confidence and belief in yourself and your business is one of the most crucial factors in determining your success, especially in direct sales. Your degree of success is directly correlated to your confidence level and belief in yourself and what you do. You can have all of the knowledge, all of the skills, and all of the training in the world, but if you lack confidence and belief then you will never be able to reach your full potential in this business or in your life. The good news is that you can easily build your confidence through a variety of different activities.

Activity

One of the first activities that come to mind is activity itself. I’ve heard it said many times that activity breeds confidence. The simple act of picking up the phone to call a prospect or an established customer will automatically increase your confidence. The more calls that you make and the more appointments that you hold, the greater your confidence will be. So if you’re lacking confidence then just go do something for your business and watch your confidence grow.

Positive Affirmations

A powerful tool for building your belief in yourself is positive affirmations. These can be words, phrases, or sentences that positively describe the qualities that you currently have that contribute to your success. Affirmations can also include positions you would like to have, goals that you would like to achieve, or qualities that you would like to develop. Speaking these things out as if they are already done will help you to visualize more clearly. When you can see yourself with those qualities, in that position, achieving those goals then your belief in yourself will continue to rise. Write your affirmations out and read them aloud to yourself on a daily basis and you will be able to stay focused on what you have to offer and what you can accomplish.

Self Development

Another way to build confidence and belief in yourself and your business is to feed your mind with books and CD’s that offer education and inspiration. You can be assured that if you are doing this on a daily basis you will always be learning and growing as a person and a professional. The more we know and the more inspiration we receive, the more confident we will feel.

Partnership and Mentorship

The last tip I have for increasing your confidence and belief is to have daily communication with someone who will support you in reaching your goals. It can be a your leader within your company, the person that sponsored you, someone else in leadership that you admire and relate to, a power partner or personal coach. Just be sure to find a mentor who will love and support you, offer encouragement and new ideas, who will stretch you and won’t listen to whining or excuses.

Mental B.A.T.H.

A great way to track whether or not you are doing all of these activities is a technique that many of the leaders in my company teach called the Mental B.A.T.H. The “B” stands for booking. Your focus should be to get one new booking each day. The “A” stands for affirmations. Saying your affirmations one to three times a day will make your dreams a reality. The “T” stands for tapes, CD's and books. You should be reading or listening to something motivational every day. The “H” is your hotline. This is your mentor or leader that you should be communicating with on a daily basis to check in and let them know you have completed your B.A.T.H. This person will keep you accountable and lift your spirits when you need a boost.

When you complete your Mental B.A.T.H. on a daily basis you will feel renewed and refreshed. I challenge each and every one of you to commit to this for the next thirty days. You will not only see an incredible increase in your confidence and belief but your business will absolutely explode! So begin today and develop your confidence and belief so that your business and your life can be amazing.



Meet Guest Blogger Tracy McGee – When I began my business my husband and I had just started dating and I was BROKE!!! I was barely making ends meet and knew that I needed something more in my life. I came across this business opportunity and knew this was exactly what I needed but had no idea that it would lead me to where I am today. When I became pregnant with my first child we made the decision that I would quit my corporate job to stay home with the baby and work my business full time. I can't imagine ever working a traditional job again. This opportunity has enabled me to stay home and raise my two beautiful children while still making a financial contribution to my family. I have also learned to dream BIG dreams since starting my own business which is something I had forgotten how to do. I am currently a Future Director with the company and have a team of 11 beautiful ladies. I am looking forward to earning the use of my career car and becoming a Director so that I can impact the lives of more women and provide an unbelievable income for me and my family.